Red Flags, Green Flags : Modern Psychology for Everyday Drama
In this podcast, I deep dive into human relationships and the psychology of every drama to help you better understand how to navigate modern-day relationships. The world in recent years has changed rapidly and every new technological and societal change adds more complexity to everyday life. Human relationships have become complex and we are losing our abilities to properly read and respond to daily situations. When is behavior a red flag and when is behavior a green flag, and more importantly when are we the red flag in certain situations. We will be covering various domains of human relationships from dating and romance, to friends and family, and work relationships. This is a podcast you need to listen to to help you look at the modern world with a behavioral lens to make better decisions for yourself and others!
Episodes
3 days ago
3 days ago
In Season 3 - Episode 3, I speak with the famous comedian duo Sundeep & Anand about the challenges of being in a long-term relationship. How do you keep the love alive and what do you when the spark is gone? Both Sundeep and Anand share their personal experiences with relationships and arranged marriages (from the Indian perspective) and explain what works and what doesn't anymore in a modern world. We also talk about the concept of open relationships as more and more couples in today's world are looking to open things up in their love life. And more importantly, how do you personally deal with such a request if your partner wants this?
An authentic and personal conversation with both Sundeep and Anand bearing insights to their private lives and how they deal with their romantic relationships. It is so wonderful to also discover the more serious sides of both comedians which we as the public don't often get to see! A wonderful conversation you don't want to miss!
Wednesday Oct 23, 2024
Season 3 - Episode 2 - Focusing on self to help the unity
Wednesday Oct 23, 2024
Wednesday Oct 23, 2024
In Episode 2, I speak with Dr. Alessandro Lanteri, a professor, strategist, loving partner, and a proud father of a 1-year old daughter. During this conversation, Alessandro explains how he found love with his partner, the challenges they faced coming from different cultures and living in multiple countries, and the way they specifically make their love and relationship work.
When trying to extract what the secret recipe is which helps them keep their marriage working, Alessandro explains that it is a mixture of traditional values, personal characteristics, challenge, sacrifice, and being able to focus on oneself as a way to be better for the other. Another unique perspective how couples make relationships work.
Tuesday Oct 08, 2024
Season 3 Episode 1 - "He's the boss, but I have the respect!"
Tuesday Oct 08, 2024
Tuesday Oct 08, 2024
In Season 3 of 'Red Flags Green Flags : Modern Psychology for Everyday Drama' we will dive into the intricacies of romantic relationships and marriage and identify what the red and green flags are within long-term relationships. Modern relationships are being challenged at so many different levels today, so it is important to identify the success factors of maintaining long-lasting love. Regardless if you are trying to look for love or are already in a long-term relationship, this season will help you understand how to make a romantic relationship successful by listening to the different strategies my guests apply to their relationships.
In episode 1, I speak with Stella Xu (Associate Store Director for Gucci) about how she found love with her husband and how after getting married and having a baby they keep their love alive and stay focused on their marriage and their goals without losing sight of each other. Truly a fascinating talk and a great way to kick off Season 3!
Monday Sep 16, 2024
Season 2 - Episode 6 : The impact of culture on work relationships
Monday Sep 16, 2024
Monday Sep 16, 2024
In our final episode of Season 2, I speak with Mohammed Al Hakim (senior strategic sourcing manager) about work relationships in the Middle East. We discuss about the peculiarities of Middle Eastern business culture and practices and explore what one needs to learn to be successful in business in the region. The emphasis in this episode is on culture and how much people need to be aware of cultural differences when operating in an international environment. Red and green flags can be interpreted differently depending on one's cultural lens.
Friday May 31, 2024
Season 2 Episode 5 - How to work with GenZ in the workplace?
Friday May 31, 2024
Friday May 31, 2024
In this interesting episode, I speak to Nisheeth Pathak (Co-Founder and CEO of WeSoar - a workforce engagement and people analytics startup) about why people are less engaged in the workplace nowadays and how different generations have different beliefs about work.
We specifically look at GenZ in the workplace and what their general attitude and relationship is to work. Should managers evaluate GenZ's commitment to the workplace with the same lens as older generations or should managers be more mindful of the priorities younger generations have when it comes to traditional jobs like sales, marketing and finance? Younger generations might have different aspirations than older generations and might not see work as defining of one's life.
During this interview, Nisheeth not only speaks about HR challenges when it comes to managing and motivating a younger generation at work, but also shares his own struggles with his kids trying to guide them to what he believes is best for them. An interview many parents and managers I believe can relate to.
Monday Apr 08, 2024
Monday Apr 08, 2024
During this podcast, I speak with Karl Feilder, Chairman and CEO of Neutral Fuels the largest producer of biofuel in the Gulf, about how to identify toxicity at work. Karl, having successful started, run, and sold various companies in his lifetime, shares various personal experiences which help identity the traits of toxic bosses and characteristics of unhealthy work environments. We also decipher what people's behaviors say about themselves and how as a manager being too controlling or too observant could actually mean there are ulterior motives at play. We dive deep into the psychology of unhealthy behaviors (talking about narcissism, psychopathology, belittling, shouting, and discriminiation) at work and identify how to counter them if you decide to stay. All in all, a great discussion you won't want to miss!
Friday Mar 08, 2024
Season 2 - Episode 3 : The red flags & green flags in the world of startups
Friday Mar 08, 2024
Friday Mar 08, 2024
During this very engaging and personal episode, I speak with serial entrepreneur and investor LouLou Khazen about the red flags and green flags in Startups. The startup world is a very dynamic environment which is very different than most corporate work environments, and which comes with unique challenges. To be successful in a startup you need to be of a different breed. It requires a lot of mental toughness, determination, and to some degree even stubbornness and a tat of delusion. Neurodiversity is a common theme also in the startup world, with many highly successful entrepreneurs being neurodiverse themselves (e.g. ADHD, Autism).
Founder dynamics have a huge impact how the company is run and how it grows which can impact how employees experience work in both good and bad ways. High dynamics is a feeding ground for drama so it is important to learn how to deal with these dynamics effectively. LouLou shares some of her personal stories as an entrepreneur and explains what she learned from her experiences and how important grit and perseverance is to be successful. Understanding the red and green flags in startups can not only help you navigate the dynamic work environment more effectively, but also can help you succeed as an entrepreneur!
Tuesday Feb 20, 2024
Season 2 Episode 2 - The impact of bad management on one's mental health
Tuesday Feb 20, 2024
Tuesday Feb 20, 2024
In season 2 episode 2, I interview legal counsellor Candida Pinto about her personal experiences with bad management. Candida provides a phenomenological perspective of bad management in the workplace and the impact it can have on you emotionally and mentally. Through her stories we explore the characteristics of good and bad management and reflect on the impact bad management can have on employee performance and mental health. We also talk about the role of (organizational) culture and how it can facilitate bad management practices. During this interview we not only speak about red and green flags in management, but also discuss strategies how to deal with bad/toxic managers in the workplace. A story many of us can relate to.
Sunday Jan 14, 2024
Season 2 - Episode 1 Office Politics : Building your Political Intelligence
Sunday Jan 14, 2024
Sunday Jan 14, 2024
Welcome back everyone, kicking off 2024 with new episodes of drama for Season 2 of Red Flags Green Flags : Modern Psychology for Everyday Drama. I am super excited to showcase 6 amazing episodes about red flags and green flags at work.
We spend 2/3 of our lives at work and it is inescapable part of social life. If you experience drama at work, you cant just walk away from it (not without losing your job). Learning how to deal with red flags at work is super important for your career success and also to your mental health.
One major cause for drama at work is office politics. office politics (or workplace/organizational politics as its often referred to) is present in every organization and often has a negative connotation to it. This is why many people refrain from engaging in organizational politics or why most business schools don't want to teach how to deal with politics at work. What many people don't realize is that office politics entails such a broad spectrum behaviors, most of them being very positive attributes. In this podcast you will learn about office politics and how to build your political intelligence.
Saturday Dec 09, 2023
Episode 7 - Surprising reasons why people don’t want to date anymore
Saturday Dec 09, 2023
Saturday Dec 09, 2023
In Episode 7, I speak to Tatyana Shin and Daria Smith about the modern dating world and cover various contemporary topics such as dating as a single mom, dating in 30s and 40s, and what monogamy means in a modern world and how willing you are to have an open relationship. We address the difficulty of having so many options in today’s world, from people to relationship formats, and we also deep dive into the reasons why people are giving up on dating all together. How to deal with trust issues and overcome the fear of getting hurt (again)? Maybe we should start falling in love with AI avatars and fictional characters instead? Also, we talk about why people are not feeling anything anymore. An emerging behavioral phenomenon which potentially can be explained by technology usage and changes in social behavior. Or could it be that you are asexual (Ace) or aromantic (Aro)? Episode 7 is the final episode of season 1 on modern dating and what a great way to end the season! An episode you don’t want to miss!
New Book Release 2024
Hi everyone, I am super excited about the global launch of my new book called 'Red Flags Green Flags : Modern Psychology of Everyday Drama' coming out early next year.
In my new book, I speak about human relationships in a modern-day world covering various domains of life such as dating, romantic relationships, family, friends, and work. As our world is rapidly changing, so are our behaviors and understanding of what is acceptable behavior and what not. Red Flags Green flags dives into the psychology of modern relationships to help decipher good behaviors from toxic behaviors to help you make better choices in your life.
Steeped in humor, science, and engaging insights, red flags green flags is a must-read book which is refreshing, easy to understand, and full of practical tools to enhance your toolkit to successfully navigate modern-day relationships. The book also helps you gain deep insight to your own thinking patterns and behaviors, helping you to realize when you are the red flag.
About the Author
Dr. Ali Fenwick is a behavioral psychologist specialized in modern day relationships. He is also a professor of organizational behavior, behavioral expert on TV, and TEDx Speaker. With over 1.5 million followers globally, Ali is one of the most known psychologist on social media (under the name @moderndaypsychologist and @drtiktok). His purpose in life is to use psychology and technology to help the world become a better place.